Re: Favor
Diary Prequel Package, pp.204-206 · diary_prequel:email:00003
Page text: p.204, p.205, p.206 · original PDF
- Date
- 2009-03-17 01:07
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- email · email
And on a completely unrelated note, Martin was so proud of the friendship he had with
you. I spoke at his retirement event and I wanted to make sure I mentioned things that
were important to him, so I sat down and talked to him about what he felt was most
important and what he was most proud of. He started by speaking generally, about the
quality of relationships he was able to build in different sectors - he was proud that
people would come to him seeking advice and equally proud that he would give it,
honestly, even when it was unpopular. But after a few minutes, he settled down to say he
was most proud of the relationship and the friendship that he'd built with you over these
years.
I mentioned briefly in my remarks that Martin stole my partner, Ed, for Sci Fi night every
Friday. I, however, was persona non grata because I wouldn't agree not to talk through
the programming. Ed said, however, "the only exception is when Tony called, then he'd
pause the program for upwards of a half hour and I'm glad I had my iPhone." There was
a place for you in his life that took precedent over nearly everything.
I know how present you were for him and when he had moments of clarity in those final
days I would tell him I was consulting with you, that you were speaking to his doctor,
etc., and he would smile and I know he felt like you were present with him and I know he
felt well attended to. I know he felt the presence of your friendship.
Martin's death is an unspeakable loss for me. He has been family to me and it breaks my
heart that my daughter will only know him through the stories that we tell and not the
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gestures of the way our lives intersect. Holidays won't be the same. I will miss our
walks, going to movies, having dinner, going to lunch... I will miss the projects we would
have launched and the fun we would have had and I will even miss how frustrated I
would get with him because of his stubborness. He could be terribly stubborn in the most
irrational ways.
He had seven vaccuum cleaners and there was little evidence he used any of them. He
had a garage full of car cleaning products, many (most) duplicates, and he paid to have
his car detailed. They were all unopened. (He said he "liked" buying them.. just in
case...) When we had dinner at his house, he'd create and re-create the recipes several
times before the actual evening and everything was perfect - he loved to cook. He would
say (often) that there was more evidence and likelihood) of alien life than the existance of
God - he was staunchly aetheist despite his sister's protestations. And he adored his sister
(though he specifically noted he wanted a non-religious service in San Francisco and for
the life of her she wasn't able to honor that... but I think he knew she couldn't and on
some level he'd be okay with that.) I would get more emails each week about alien
technology than I would about HIV/AIDS in recent years. There is nothing he would
want more than to be rocket launched into space with Gene Roddenberry and his wife...
It's all the little, seemingly inconsequential things, that I'll miss... anyways.
-Brenda